Newsletter For Newcomers To The United States
This 8-page monthly newsletter offers a unique collection
of information, advice, and cultural interpretation. It is written by
Anne P. Copeland, Ph.D., a clinical family psychologist and founder
of The Interchange Institute. Those who have moved to the US for work
or personal reasons have found the blend of practical tips and thoughtful
analysis of American culture a lifeline during their transition. Individuals,
couples, and families have made it a "must read," whether
they have just arrived or have been here for several years.
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"Newcomer's Almanac has been an integral part of our work
for the past 10 years, providing international destinations services
to global companies bringing employees to the United States. Our destination
consultants are proud to have the Newcomer's Almanac as part of the
materials they give to the newcomers. Not only is the newsletter a
valuable tool for our clients, it is an equally valuable part of our
training process. We use all of the materials produced by The Interchange
Institute to train our destination consultants and to add to the unique
qualities of our services.
Dr. Copeland's expertise, enthusiasm and professionalism is evident
in her work and all of the materials her Institute produces. At Full
Circle we can't imagine providing our services without The Interchange
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Background To Current News Stories:
US Politics And History:
- Racial Profiling
- Civil Liberties at Risk
- American Values Underlying the Monica Lewinsky Matter
- Guns, Funds, and Values
- How The Jury System Works
- Gender and the US Workplace
Adjustment To Living
In A New Culture:
- Declared and Undeclared Wars
- Financing the Presidential Campaign
- The Shadow of Watergate
- Primaries, Caucuses, and The Electoral College
- What It Means to Be "Unconstitutional"
- How Congress Passes a New Law
Being A Parent In The US:
- Marriage and Moving: How Moving to a New Country Affects Couples
- Home, When You've Traveled Far
- Translating Emotions into a New Language
US Values And Behavior:
- Talking to Children About Scary Things
- Evaluating Your Child's School Year
- Checking out Day Camps
- Using Family Stories and National Legends to Teach Your Family's Values
- Vocabulary for the First Day of School: From "Field Trips"
to "Show and Tell"
Practical Information And
- "Hi, I'm Rick:" Informality in the US
- Starting Over: The American Way
- Believing in Equality
- Who Should Decide? Americans Still at War with King George III
- Making Sense of Over-the-Counter Cold Medications
- The Rules of Baseball and American Football
- Winterizing Your Home
- Renting a Car in the US
- Gift-Giving at Times of Change
Questions From Readers:
- Men and Women Around the World: Stereotypes and Reality
- Mothers Talking to their Infants Around the World
- Father' Special Work Around the World
- Love and Marriage Around the World
Idioms And Oddities Of The
- "Why do I get so much ice in my drink? My teeth get cold!"
- "Why do Americans find Sesame Street's Ernie funny? I think he's
- "Please explain what to do with all those squashes I see in the
- "What is the difference between 'Bake' and 'Broil' on my oven
Holidays And Special Events:
- "Out in Left Field:" Idioms from Baseball
- "See You This Friday:" Time in English
- "I'll Eat My Hat:" Clothing in English Idioms
- "Keep It Up:" Idioms Using the Word 'Keep'
Food And Shopping:
- Early Roots and Current Practice (Ignore At Your Own Risk)
- Marriage and Moving: How Moving to a New Country Affects Couples
Fourth Of July
- How to Make a Real Hamburger
- How The Second Amendment Was Born
- One-Page History of The American Revolution
- The Ancient Roots of Halloween
- What to Do On Halloween If You Have Children (and If You Don't)
- Thanksgiving: Who Were the Pilgrims?
- How (and Why) to Cook a Thanksgiving Dinner
- Separation of Church and State in the US
- The US Supermarket: What to Do with 194 Kinds of Chocolate Chip Cookies
- Butter, Margarine, and "Spread"
- Products for Spring Cleaning
From A Newcomer's Almanac Article
Friendship In The US: Too Much Too Soon, Then Not
Recently, I was away from home on a business trip. My husband
suddenly had to go away too. There would be one afternoon when neither
of us would be home with our children. My husband called one of our usual
baby-sitters, the 14-year-old daughter of a Russian couple in our neighborhood.
The daughter was busy and could not come. But her mother offered to watch
our children for us. My husband said, "Oh, we could not possibly
ask you to do that." We had spent several happy evenings with this
family, but her offer surprised him. She answered, "Don't you see?
We would like to be friends with you."
In a typical American way, we had already thought of this
Russian family as our friends. In our minds and vocabulary, they had moved
from being "people we know from the children's school" to being
"friends" after one dinner together! We probably would have
stayed at that level of surface friendship for a long time, if they had
not brought their own cultural values to the relationship. Instead, my
husband gratefully accepted their offer. And we have gone on to feel an
unusual connection to this family.
My husband and I probably have as many "friends"
as most American couples. I am sure many of them would have been happy
to help in this case. But my husband would have called many teenage baby-sitters
(whom we would pay, keeping the relationship formal and distant) before
asking any of our friends for this kind of help.
I have heard many international newcomers say that American
friendships are superficial (on the surface only). They say Americans
do not know what true friendship is - they seem very friendly at first,
but the friendships do not grow.
Here are a few thoughts that might explain American friendships.
Hold on to your seat - if you are from a country with very different friendship
patterns, this may sound crazy to you!
- Remember that Americans value independence. To ask for help means
to be dependent on a friend. Americans might be willing to accept this
dependence, if they really needed help (as happened with my husband),
but they usually will try something else first...
- Remember that Americans will probably be very direct if they want
your help, and expect you to be so too...
- Americans tend to turn to outsiders for help when people from other
cultures turn to friends and family...
- Many Americans tend to be very friendly early in a relationship...
They tell you personal things, and ask you personal questions. They
joke around... If these are the signs of a close friend in your culture,
you may be confused (and hurt) when Americans do not act like close
friends later. It may feel like "too much too soon, then not enough"
to you. But it suits many Americans, especially those who move often,
or who live among people who move often.
- Many international newcomers say how busy Americans seem...
- Americans use the word "friend" to mean "anyone I have
spoken to a few times..."
- Americans do have long-term, close friends. They share problems with
each other. They ask each other for help and accept help from them.
Their friends may even replace their family in some ways, because their
families may live quite far away. But these friendships are rare in
many American's lives, maybe more rare than in the lives of people from